Lesson 7: Identifying resentment
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Questions:
1. Is this a defensive reaction: Raising your hand in class when you’re confused about what the teacher is explaining.
- Yes
- No
2. Is this a defensive reaction: Cory saw $20 drop out of the pocket of the kid walking in front of him, and decided to pick it up and keep it for himself.
- Yes
- No
3. Is this a defensive reaction: Julia was so mad at her boyfriend, Bobby, for not calling her after practice that she ignored all of his texts and calls the rest of the week.
- Yes
- No
4. Which of the following are good ways to handle an accusation from someone that’s not true?
- Letting them think what they want to think.
- Denying what they’re saying and trying to see how they’re wrong.
- Showing vulnerability if it’s someone you care about.
- Getting mad at them and never talking to them again.
Discussion prompts/Journal Exercise:
- How easily do you allow yourself to become defensive? How defensive do you get when you do become defensive?
- Defensiveness is something that gives us relief in the short run, but in the long run, it can cause us and the people we end up caring most about a lot of emotional pain. Keep a tally of your defensive reactions over the next day or two, to ensure that you’re getting a realistic picture of yourself.