Lesson 7: Identifying resentment
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1. Is this a defensive reaction: Raising your hand in class when you’re confused about what the teacher is explaining.
2. Is this a defensive reaction: Cory saw $20 drop out of the pocket of the kid walking in front of him, and decided to pick it up and keep it for himself.
3. Is this a defensive reaction: Julia was so mad at her boyfriend, Bobby, for not calling her after practice that she ignored all of his texts and calls the rest of the week.
4. Which of the following are good ways to handle an accusation from someone that’s not true?
- Letting them think what they want to think.
- Denying what they’re saying and trying to see how they’re wrong.
- Showing vulnerability if it’s someone you care about.
- Getting mad at them and never talking to them again.
Discussion prompts/Journal Exercise:
- How easily do you allow yourself to become defensive? How defensive do you get when you do become defensive?
- Defensiveness is something that gives us relief in the short run, but in the long run, it can cause us and the people we end up caring most about a lot of emotional pain. Keep a tally of your defensive reactions over the next day or two, to ensure that you’re getting a realistic picture of yourself.